Thursday, June 20, 2013


Hymenoplasty - Honestly, I did not know about it. But a few days ago when a leading news paper in India reported on an incident, I started  delving into the logic behind hymenoplasty. The news was about a lover accompanying his girl friend for hymenoplasty, ie a surgery to reconstruct the broken hymen. The report says that the number resorting to this surgery is increasing considerably.

This is the story. They were lovers and as any lovers in love would do, they also had sex. But when the question of marriage arose, their parents were dead against it for they belonged to different castes. They did not want to go against their parents and decided to part. But before they split ways, they wanted to eliminate any trace of their relationship.  And the boyfriend took the girl friend to a hospital for the aforementioned surgery.

My first question is a big ' Why?'
Second, ' What do they want to prove by it?'

The lovers represents new generation. But the irony is that it is the same erudite youth who clamour for liberation and freedom.  The report also adds that there are mothers too who are taking their daughters for hymenoplasty.

Unlike other countries, for an Indian woman her ‘virginity’ is her priced possession. Growing up, I have heard many ridiculous things such as testing the virginity of a new bride. The family members would spread a white sheet on the bed where the new couple would make love for the first time. If there was blood on the sheet, the bride was a virgin. If not she would be in utter peril. But that was several years ago. I felt things have changed.

Rapes are increasing in the country. When it happens, it happens. The government and authorities are straining their nerves to wipe it away but in vain. It has become a contagious disease. Sadly, the rape victims could not even start their life afresh because of the undue importance attached to ‘hymen’. I remember at this point a quote by a famous woman writer . “When something of this sort happens, the hurt remains but traces of such an untoward incident could be wiped out just by washing it with ‘ DETTOL’ and start life afresh’.

When women are trying their level best to gain their rights, please do not belittle their efforts by hymenoplasty or whatever. THIS IS A HUMBLE REQUEST.


Anita said...

Shalet Jimmy, Once again you've written about an atrocity toward the women of the world. Though this post is targeting the people of India, it represents the riciculous and cruel acts that women all over have to endure. While women may be volunteering to be "sewn back up," it is in response to fear imparted upon them. Thanks you again for keeping issues like these in the forfront.

prasanna raghavan said...

This is another unreal act. In India rape has become the way of men for some time now; then the premarital sex is in vogue. So how can these men and their families expect virgin wives and daughter-in-laws. This is another hood-winking so typical of our place and again the females are to do the cover up.This is great reporting by Shalet Jimmy.

Bill the Butcher said...

The sheet on the bed is an old Arab tradition. Hymenoplasty, too, is something dreamed up by the Arabs (generally speaking it isn't full hymen reconstruction, but more often a small bladder of blood placed a the vaginal entrance to rupture and bleed at penetration). Of course, both fit in with the usual hypocrisy in India about sexuality.

I want to ask you why you wrote "indulging in premarital sex." Just how is sex an "indulgence"?

Shalet Jimmy said...

I actually meant ' you indulge in something,when you really like something, right Bill? :D

Saumya said...

Wow, thank you for writing about this topic. I admire your drive to educate others about the struggles of women.

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Namita Singh said...

Hymen in a thin membrane at the opening of the vagina which usually breaks down during sexual activity. Hymenoplasty, also known as Hymenorrhaphy or hymen reconstruction surgery

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